Goated Views

This was something that I spoke to my dad about and he helped me smooth out the rough edges of this theory. But basically, the metaphor is, if you’ve had chocolate ice cream before, and that is the only flavor youve tasted, and I asked you what your favorite flavor of ice cream is, you really only have on option right. Now how this applies to the real world is in relationships, some of my best friends, including me, dove right into their first relationships and felt like that was who they were going to spend the rest of their lives with. Problem with that is that once youve determined that this girl or guy is who you are going to marry, you tend to look past red flags and icks that your partner has because your mind has already created a future for you and this person. These red flags could be anything, small or big, examples are not respecting your parents, to something as small as not offering to pay. Back to the ice cream metaphor, if you have tried multiple different flavors, and I asked you which one is your favorite, you are more able to differentiate these flavors and determine your favorite one. The one that is the sweetest, you like the toppings on it and could never get tired of this flavor. This is what Ive been trying to explain, there is a very small chance that your first partner is the one you are going to end up with. DO NOT change your life for this person, please, for example, transferring to the school of this partner…… wtf. That is one of the worst ideas Ive ever heard and it ties into one of my other theories that ill explain later. I am not at all saying to “ho around”, I mean thats definately an option that you could go and if you are in this college stage definately not that bad of an idea. What I am trying to say is to not force yourself into a mindset that this first partner is the one for you, you need to experience other partners, other cultures, personalities, looks, everything to truly find the one for you. One of my favorite TV shows “How I met your mother” supports this theory with all 9 seasons. Ted got with so many women, dated so many, had so many different experiences with all of them, that when he eventually met his future wife he knew she was the one for him because he had other partners to compare her with, his favorite ice cream flavor.